84 This or That Pairs for a Bridal Shower Guessing Game

These this or that questions bride edition turn a classic bridal shower into a proper guessing game: the bride answers every pair in advance, guests try to match her, and whoever knows her best wins. Six rounds, 84 pairs, printable cards for every round.

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How to Play

Before the shower, send the bride a numbered answer sheet covering all six rounds and ask her to circle one option from each pair. The maid of honour collects the sheet and keeps it secret. At the shower, read each pair aloud, guests hold up a hand for their guess (or write answers on a score card), and the maid of honour reveals the bride’s real answer after each one. One point per correct guess, tally at the end of every round, and crown a winner after Round Six. Print the card sheets as reading prompts, table cards, or take-home keepsakes.

Round One: Wedding Day Choices

These twelve pairs cover every decision the bride made (or agonised over) while planning the big day, so the room will be genuinely split on most of them.

1. Church ceremony or outdoor venue
2. Big wedding party or intimate gathering
3. Sit-down dinner or cocktail-style reception
4. Traditional vows or personalised vows
5. Live band or DJ
6. Wedding cake or dessert tower
7. First look before the ceremony or wait until the aisle
8. Bouquet of roses or wildflower bouquet
9. Arrive in a classic car or a horse-drawn carriage
10. White wedding dress or coloured wedding dress
11. Dancing until midnight or wrapping up by 10 p.m.
12. Send-off with sparklers or send-off with confetti

Round Two: The Honeymoon

Where the couple goes and how they spend it says a lot about the bride, and guests who have travelled with her will feel very confident, possibly wrongly.

1. Beach resort or mountain retreat
2. All-inclusive hotel or boutique guesthouse
3. Two weeks away or one long weekend
4. Fly business class or use the savings on experiences
5. Europe or Southeast Asia
6. Structured itinerary or completely spontaneous
7. City break or rural escape
8. Snorkelling every day or spa every day
9. Road trip leg of the trip or no driving at all
10. Document everything on camera or put the phone away
11. Local cuisine only or familiar comfort food
12. Stay in one place or move to a new spot every few days

Round Three: Home and Future

This round moves into the life they are building together, and the answers reveal how the bride pictures her ideal domestic world.

1. City apartment or house with a garden
2. Own a dog or own a cat
3. Cook at home most nights or eat out most nights
4. Big family or small family
5. Move abroad for a year or stay close to family
6. Morning person household or night-owl household
7. Minimalist home or cosy maximalist home
8. Host dinner parties regularly or keep home life private
9. Work from home forever or always go into an office
10. Renovate an older house or buy new
11. Grow a vegetable garden or fill the yard with flowers
12. Retire early or work as long as possible

Round Four: Style and Taste

Style questions feel easy until the group realises they each picture the bride differently, which is exactly when the game gets interesting.

1. Classic wardrobe or trend-led wardrobe
2. Gold jewellery or silver jewellery
3. Heels for everyday or flats for everyday
4. Bold lip or no-makeup look
5. Nails always done or bare nails
6. Designer handbag or high-street find
7. Prints and patterns or solids and neutrals
8. Short hair or long hair
9. Vintage style or modern minimalist style
10. Fragrance every day or no fragrance
11. Colourful home decor or neutral home decor
12. Statement earrings or delicate earrings

Round Five: Everyday Habits

Daily routines are surprisingly revealing, and anyone who has lived with or near the bride will feel smug about how well they score here.

1. Coffee or tea first thing
2. Early riser or sleep-in whenever possible
3. Shower in the morning or shower at night
4. Neat and tidy or organised chaos
5. Cook from scratch or meal prep on Sundays
6. Read before bed or scroll before bed
7. Work out in the morning or work out in the evening
8. Make the bed every day or leave it
9. Grocery shop once a week or go as needed
10. Reply to messages immediately or let them wait
11. Budget spreadsheet or rough mental estimate
12. Podcast on the commute or music on the commute

Round Six: The Scoring Round

Save these twelve for last: they are the trickiest pairs, worth double points to shake up the leaderboard and give anyone still in contention a real chance to win.

1. Spend a windfall on travel or save every penny of it
2. Be the one who plans everything or go along for the ride
3. Speak her mind immediately or sit with it first
4. Forgive quickly or take time to come around
5. Show love through acts of service or through words
6. Celebrate every anniversary with a big gesture or keep it low-key
7. Push through when things get hard or know when to walk away
8. Lead in social situations or hang back and observe
9. Change her mind easily or dig in once she has decided
10. Make a decision fast or research everything first
11. Compromise first or hold her ground first
12. Be remembered as the fun one or the reliable one

Keep It Moving and Know When to Stop

Six rounds of twelve is the ceiling, not the floor. If the energy peaks after Round Four, call the scores there and hand out the prize. A game that ends one round too early is always better than one that outlasts the dessert.

Read each pair at a steady pace: about two seconds per option is enough. Guests who overthink will ask for repeats, so say the pair twice the first time and once thereafter. Keep a visible running tally, a simple whiteboard or a folded piece of card with names and tally marks, so guests stay invested between rounds.

Award one point per correct guess in Rounds One through Five and two points per correct guess in Round Six. Ties at the end go to whoever scored highest in Round Six alone, which rewards the guests who know the bride on a deeper level. For a memorable prize, a small box of the bride’s favourite chocolates or a candle she loves works better than a generic gift bag. See 20 Bridal Party Games for a Sweet and Fun Shower for more games to stack before or after this one, and check 120 This or That Questions for Quick Fun if you want a faster, no-score version to run while guests are still arriving.

Frequently Asked Questions

How does the this or that bridal shower guessing game work?

The bride fills in her answers on a numbered sheet before the shower. At the party, the host reads each pair aloud, guests guess which option the bride chose, and the correct answer is revealed after each pair. One point per right guess in Rounds 1 to 5, two points in Round 6.

How many players do you need?

The game works with as few as four guests and scales comfortably to thirty or more. Larger groups can pair up and submit one answer per team to keep scoring manageable.

How do I collect the bride’s answers without spoiling the game?

Email or message the bride a numbered list of all 84 pairs a few days before the shower and ask her to reply with her choices. Keep her answers in a sealed envelope or a notes app only the maid of honour can see.

Can you skip rounds or use fewer questions?

Yes. Each round is self-contained, so you can pick three or four rounds that best suit the group and skip the rest. Twelve pairs per round takes about five to eight minutes at a relaxed pace.

How do I print and use the card sheets?

Download each sheet, print on cardstock, and cut along the thin lines. Laminating the sheets before cutting makes them sturdier. Thread a binder ring through one corner to keep each round’s cards together.

Is this game appropriate for all ages at a mixed shower?

All 84 pairs are PG-13 and family-friendly, so yes. Nothing in the prompts requires guests to share personal information or answer anything uncomfortable themselves.