72 This or That Pairs for a Girls Night In

These this or that questions for girls are built for a night in: fast, opinionated and genuinely divisive enough to spark a real debate between pours. Six rounds of twelve pairs take you from low-stakes easy openers all the way to the honest stuff nobody usually admits out loud. Print the cards, pile the snacks, skip the planning stress.

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How to Play

One person reads a pair out loud. Everyone calls their answer at the same time, no waiting to hear what the room thinks first. Anyone whose answer is in the minority owes a quick reason why, and then you move to the next pair. No points, no winner, no loser: the goal is learning exactly how differently your friends think. Work through all twelve pairs in a round before opening the next one, or drop a round entirely if the conversation takes over.

Round One: Easy Openers

Start here to get everyone talking before the opinions get spicy. These twelve pairs are low-stakes and genuinely 50/50, so the room will split fast and laughing.

1. Morning person or night owl?
2. Coffee or tea?
3. Books or podcasts?
4. City apartment or countryside cottage?
5. Hot shower or long bath?
6. Dog person or cat person?
7. Summer or winter?
8. Phone call or voice note?
9. Cinema at home or cinema out?
10. Plane window seat or aisle seat?
11. Early Christmas prep or strictly December?
12. Spend the day alone or spend it with people?

Round Two: Style

This round gets into the aesthetic choices people hold surprisingly strong feelings about. Expect some genuinely shocked faces when the room reveals where it lands.

1. Minimal wardrobe or eclectic wardrobe?
2. Heels or trainers?
3. Gold jewellery or silver jewellery?
4. Bold lip or statement eye?
5. Linen and neutral tones or colour and pattern?
6. Thrift find or investment piece?
7. Blowout or air-dry?
8. Nails always done or bare nails?
9. Matching set or mixed pieces?
10. Designer bag or no-name bag that looks amazing?
11. Classic fragrance or niche fragrance nobody else wears?
12. Flat lay photos or mirror selfies?

Round Three: Food and Drinks

Food opinions are personal and people defend them like territory. These twelve pairs will reveal alliances nobody knew existed before tonight.

1. Sweet brunch or savoury brunch?
2. Red wine or white wine?
3. Home-cooked dinner or restaurant dinner?
4. Charcuterie board or cheese board (just cheese)?
5. Spicy food or mild food?
6. Fizzy water or still water?
7. Fancy cocktail or cold beer?
8. Pasta or rice as a comfort base?
9. Chocolate or crisps as a snack?
10. Fresh herbs or dried spices carrying the dish?
11. One incredible main or a table full of small plates?
12. Dessert every time or only when something really earns it?

Round Four: Travel

Everyone has a travel personality and most people have never compared notes on it. These twelve pairs split the group into clear camps within the first three questions.

1. Beach holiday or mountain trip?
2. Plan every detail or figure it out on arrival?
3. Long-haul flight to somewhere new or short drive to a favourite spot?
4. Five-star hotel or beautiful Airbnb with character?
5. Solo travel or always with someone?
6. Museums and culture or food tours and markets?
7. One big trip a year or several long weekends?
8. Carry-on only or check a proper bag?
9. Hire a car or use public transport?
10. Digital travel journal or physical notebook?
11. New country every time or return to a place you love?
12. All-inclusive resort or build your own itinerary?

Round Five: Honest Preferences

This is where the rounds escalate into territory people rarely put into words. Keep the pace quick so nobody overthinks their answer before they give it. For more game ideas that work at the same pace, 120 This or That Questions for Quick Fun has a great extended bank to draw from.

1. Tell a hard truth or protect feelings with a softer version?
2. Know something uncomfortable about yourself or stay happily unaware?
3. Cancel a plan you were dreading or follow through and be surprised?
4. Confront the issue now or let time do the work?
5. Accept an apology that feels half-hearted or say nothing and move on?
6. Be the one who sets the group chat topic or the one who reacts?
7. Have more money or more free time?
8. Know how a film ends before watching it or go in completely blind?
9. Hear what your friends actually think of your partner or stay out of it?
10. Own your opinions loudly or keep the peace in mixed company?
11. Live in a beautiful cluttered home or a calm minimal one?
12. Change a big decision from your past or leave everything as it played out?

Round Six: The Last Round

Save this round for when the glasses are nearly empty and the conversation has loosened up. These pairs are the most revealing of the night, and the answers tend to stay in the room. If you want a game with the same energy for a bigger occasion, 18 Hen Party Games for a Brilliant Girls Night is worth bookmarking.

1. Be remembered as talented or remembered as kind?
2. Know you made the right choice or never have to make the hard choice at all?
3. Peak ten years ago or peak ten years from now?
4. Hear your friends describe you to a stranger or read what they wrote about you?
5. Achieve a goal privately or celebrate it publicly?
6. Live a quieter life than you planned or a louder one?
7. Have one person who truly knows you or a wide circle of people who like you?
8. Keep a version of a relationship that has changed or let it go?
9. Be certain you are right or be open that you might not be?
10. Spend your energy building something new or protecting something you already have?
11. Know exactly how your story ends or live with the uncertainty?
12. Look back on tonight in ten years as ordinary or as the start of something?

How to Keep It Moving and When to Stop

The quickest way to kill the momentum is letting one question absorb the entire evening. Give each pair about ninety seconds: enough for everyone to explain their side, not enough for anyone to write an essay. If two people go deep on a pair, note it and move on, then circle back at the end of the round if there is still energy for it.

Keep a loose timer on your phone during the first two rounds until the group finds its own rhythm. After that, the conversation regulates itself. If someone goes quiet, ask them first, not last, on the next pair so they set the tone instead of following it.

Stop the game when the answers start to feel predictable or when one conversation has clearly taken over and everyone is leaning into it. That is the game working, not breaking. Six rounds is a ceiling, not a quota: three excellent rounds beat six polite ones. A good prompt list for the same kind of evening is 150 Truth or Dare Questions for a Fun Night with Anyone, which pairs well with the later rounds of this one.

Frequently Asked Questions

How many players do you need for this or that questions for girls?

Three is the practical minimum because you need at least one split in the room to make it interesting. It works best with four to eight players. Above ten, split into two groups and compare answers at the end of each round.

Do you need to play all six rounds in one night?

No. Three rounds is a perfectly complete game. Start with Easy Openers, pick one middle round that fits the mood, and finish with The Last Round if the group is up for it. Dropping rounds keeps the energy high.

How do you print the card sheets?

Print each A4 sheet at home on cardstock for a sturdier feel, then cut along the dashed lines. A paper guillotine gives cleaner edges than scissors. Laminate the cards if you want to reuse the deck across multiple nights.

Is this game suitable for all ages?

This particular set is written for adults. Rounds Five and Six include honest-preference pairs about relationships and self-reflection that work best with people who know each other well. For a younger group, stick to Rounds One through Three.

What if the group keeps getting stuck on one question?

Give it ninety seconds, note that you will come back to it at the end of the round, and read the next pair. Most groups self-regulate once they know the timer is informal but real.

Can you mix rounds from different nights?

Yes. The card sheets are self-contained and labelled with the game name and round name, so you can pull any deck out on a different night without needing the full set present.